Have you ever lost a friend because he/she said that they don’t like you without a reason?
Have you ever been belittled by your own family, who consider only your failures in life to talk about than your successes?
Have you ever noticed, either a close associate of you or who pretends to be your best friend, speak ill about you in your absence?
And after all these, did you wonder why???
It is said that alcohol is the root cause of most of the social problems but I say, that it is “the J-Factor”. No wonder, its “Jealousy” or envy which is though not under the limelight, the underlying cause. I accept the fact that it’s a common human emotion but it makes one do inhuman acts.
One of my English teachers told that envy is a positive word and jealousy is a negative word. But, I feel envy is bud and jealousy is the result of it. I knew, when I chose to write about it, I was focusing on projecting a negative topic but later I pacified my thoughts as I am certain that I would focus on ways to overcome it and that might lead to a positive outcome.
Every person is blessed in some way or the other. The problem is that, we ignore the unwrapped presents! Why focus on what we think we don’t have? As kids, we can’t distinguish between right and wrong. But as youngsters, we are better at classifying right and wrong deeds. Our actions are defined by our thoughts. In words of Kevin Bacon, “Part of being a man, is learning to take responsibility for your successes and your failures. You can’t go blaming others or being jealous. Seeing somebody else’s success as your failure is a cancerous way to live!” Don’t make jealous deeds as your pillars to reach pinnacle, because if at all you have to turn back, your good virtues and deeds hold you not letting you fall off.
As told by Hadith, “Beware of jealousy, for verily it destroys good deeds, the way fire destroys wood”. Stop blaming others and believe that everything happens for a good reason. If you lose an opportunity, it’s not because you are worthless but because you are destined to have something which is good for you. After all, life is about learning from bad and growing for good. Believe in your strengths, not in a successful person’s pride or power.